I'm a single (41yr old) programmer and board/card/computer/RPG game player. I live in a liberal city. I work at a small hi-tech company. Most the people I interact with are well educated and tech-savvy, many are nerds of one sort of another (music, computer, game, TV, etc).
I say all that cause the list of what people say to RPGrs from The Escapist Blog was so negative. I rarely have heard shit like that since high-school. Holy crap guys! Where do you live and who the hell do you hang out with? No wonder people "hide" the fact that they are gamers.
Mostly I get:
"How does it work?"
"Its like WoW?" Often people don't realize right away I'm not talking about MMORPG or other computer game.
"Can I join?"
"Can I have my own figure?"
"Wish I had still had time for that."
"Oh man, let me tell about the time my Paladin Centaur ...."The winning / what's the point thing comes up fairly often. But, more from curiosity / wanting to understand rather than derogatory angle.